Control Your Lust and Let Me Wear My Shorts

Is this supposed to be tempting?

This is a response to the post Incomprehensible on Simplicity.

In short, she wrote about how she was stopped by a security guard for wearing knee-length shorts because it was ‘dangerous’ and ‘against the rules’ out of campus.

For an entire weekend, I was immersed in a ‘women’s rights’ wave. I attended the ‘No Democracy without Gender Equality’ talk by Marina Mahathir and the Men Against Violence Campaign by Wanita UMNO. It would be very hard to restrain myself from responding to this post.

I’m not a die-hard feminist who screams “women are better than men!” at every opportunity, but I do not believe that women should be subservient to men, even in marriage. Some will quickly flip open their bibles to Ephesians 5:22 which says, “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.” Wait. Let’s backtrack to verse 21. “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

Back to dressing. A representative of the Toronto police said that “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimised”. In retaliation, there was the SlutWalk. Okay. I’m obsessed about the dictionary and definitions. A slut is a sexually promiscuous woman, a slattern, a loose woman. I don’t like the idea of calling myself a slut.

Is a woman to blame if she is dressed in shorts and a sleeveless top? Is she more vulnerable to rape? In US, 15% of sexual assault and rape victims are below the age of 12. Fully-covered Muslim women and little girls get raped. Hence, the way women dress is not an incitement to rape. Unfortunately, it is often cited as one of the causes rapes occur. No woman deserves to be raped because of the way she dresses. If men use this absurd reason, then they are simply saying that they are immensely lustful creatures without self-restraint.

I wear shorts, tight T-shirts, skinny jeans. I don’t wear them to attract men and I’m not promiscuous because of that. It is my right to dress so. But I respect my body. I don’t dress scantily. I believe that the author shares the same perspective.

To blame a woman’s dressing for rape is to rationalise uncontrollable lust and savage behaviour. Women don’t need to wear burqas; men need to exert self-control.


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